Start Your Journey: Single Woman

Decided to forgo waiting for Mr. or Ms. Right and plan on being a single mom? You’re not alone. More and more women are choosing this path, so let’s get started exploring your options.


Getting Started


As a single woman, you’ll be deciding between pregnancy and adoption. Both paths can lead to a beautiful life! Let’s find out about each.

  • Planning ahead?

    Some women have always known they wanted to experience pregnancy and childbirth. If this sounds like you, you’ll want to have a fertility checkup prior to conception attempts so any potential infertility issues can be tackled up front. If you know you’re not ready yet, but want to be a mom someday, egg freezing might be an option for you to consider. Egg freezing is not an insurance policy for motherhood, however.

    Find a Professional Planning for Payment

    RESOURCES FOR YOU

    Pros and Cons of Egg Freezing »

    Female Biological Clock »

    Genetic Testing Options During Your Journey to Parenthood »


  • Finding a donor

    When you’re ready to become pregnant, you’ll need a sperm donor. Sperm samples can come from known or anonymous donors. Learn the differences below to find what might work best for you.

    Find a Professional Planning for Payment

    KNOWN DONOR

    Sometimes, women choose to acquire a semen sample from someone they know. Typically, this option is less expensive but can carry some legal, medical or emotional risks. Before you opt in, make sure to speak with professionals, such as a reproductive attorney, about the issues your family and known donor might face now and into the future.

    RESOURCES FOR YOU

    Questions to Ask a Potential Known Donor »
    Using a Known Sperm Donor: Understanding the Legal Risks and Challenges »

    UNKNOWN DONOR

    A more common option is to find a donor through a cryobank, also called a sperm bank. Choosing a donor this way gives you much more control. In addition, cryopreserved donor sperm undergoes testing and quarantine for 180 days to screen for the presence of sexually transmitted diseases, and to eliminate the possibility of transmission. The process also includes a personal medical history of the donor. Make sure your sperm bank is reputable and licensed by the local board of health. You can learn more here.

    RESOURCES FOR YOU

    Single Motherhood: The Choice »
    Single Parenthood: Building Families with Donors and Surrogates »

  • Finding the right professionals to help you

    Having a reproductive lawyer you trust is essential to making the best choices for your growing family. Your attorney’s job is to make sure that every detail impacting your family and donor is in rock-solid contractual order.

    Find a Professional

    RESOURCES FOR YOU

    Why Do You Need a Lawyer, Anyway? »
    Finding a Cryobank »
    Finding a Medical Professional »
    Finding a Reproductive Attorney »

  • Getting Pregnant

    Once you choose your donor you will be ready to decide upon the best way for you to become pregnant. There are a few options to consider. Read more to find out what you think is best for you and discuss your options with a medical provider.

    Find a Professional Planning for Payment

    AT-HOME INSEMINATION

    Some women opt to attempt conceiving at home. If you do, make sure you get a fertility checkup first to determine if there are problems, such as blocked tubes or issues with ovulation, which would inhibit or diminish your chances at conceiving. Many women who opt in to at­-home insemination do so with the help of a midwife, which may increase the likelihood of success.

    FINDING A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL

    Working with a doctor or other type of medical professional, such as a midwife, not only increases your chances of successful conception but also provides legal protection if you are working with a known donor.

    INFERTILITY

    If you do not conceive as easily as you had hoped you would, your doctor will suggest options to consider. Your age and your reproductive and overall health will be assessed to determine what might be causing difficulty, and suggestions will be made which might solve the issue.

    Look through our Infertility Guide to see if this may be you.

    INTRAUTERINE INSEMINATION

    Intrauterine insemination (IUI), also known as artificial insemination, is a procedure done in a doctor’s office. It’s painless, and takes around five minutes to complete. IUI’s are often done in conjunction with prescribed fertility medication.

    IN VITRO FERTILIZATION

    In vitro fertilization (IVF) is a high­-tech medical procedure which is very common. If you require IVF, you will work with a reproductive endocrinologist who will monitor your progress and hold your hand every step of the way.

    EGG DONOR IVF

    Sometimes, especially with women who are a bit older, egg donor IVF will yield the best chance at pregnancy. If egg donor IVF is the right choice for you, you will work with your clinic or an agency to identify a donor.

    SURROGACY

    If you are having difficulties carrying a pregnancy, working with a surrogate may be your best bet. If so, the surrogate will carry a pregnancy resulting from either your eggs or a donor’s eggs.

    RESOURCES FOR YOU

    What Is In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) »
    Accupuncture, Stress, and In Vitro Fertilization »

  • Planning ahead?

    Some women have always known they wanted to experience pregnancy and childbirth. If this sounds like you, you’ll want to have a fertility checkup prior to conception attempts so any potential infertility issues can be tackled up front. If you know you’re not ready yet, but want to be a mom someday, egg freezing might be an option for you to consider. Egg freezing is not an insurance policy for motherhood, however.

    Find a Professional Planning for Payment

    RESOURCES FOR YOU

    Pros and Cons of Egg Freezing »

    Female Biological Clock »

    Genetic Testing Options During Your Journey to Parenthood »


  • Finding a donor

    When you’re ready to become pregnant, you’ll need a sperm donor. Sperm samples can come from known or anonymous donors. Learn the differences below to find what might work best for you.

    Find a Professional Planning for Payment

    KNOWN DONOR

    Sometimes, women choose to acquire a semen sample from someone they know. Typically, this option is less expensive but can carry some legal, medical or emotional risks. Before you opt in, make sure to speak with professionals, such as a reproductive attorney, about the issues your family and known donor might face now and into the future.

    RESOURCES FOR YOU

    Questions to Ask a Potential Known Donor »
    Using a Known Sperm Donor: Understanding the Legal Risks and Challenges »

    UNKNOWN DONOR

    A more common option is to find a donor through a cryobank, also called a sperm bank. Choosing a donor this way gives you much more control. In addition, cryopreserved donor sperm undergoes testing and quarantine for 180 days to screen for the presence of sexually transmitted diseases, and to eliminate the possibility of transmission. The process also includes a personal medical history of the donor. Make sure your sperm bank is reputable and licensed by the local board of health. You can learn more here.

    RESOURCES FOR YOU

    Single Motherhood: The Choice »
    Single Parenthood: Building Families with Donors and Surrogates »

  • Finding the right professionals to help you

    Having a reproductive lawyer you trust is essential to making the best choices for your growing family. Your attorney’s job is to make sure that every detail impacting your family and donor is in rock-solid contractual order.

    Find a Professional

    RESOURCES FOR YOU

    Why Do You Need a Lawyer, Anyway? »
    Finding a Cryobank »
    Finding a Medical Professional »
    Finding a Reproductive Attorney »

  • Getting Pregnant

    Once you choose your donor you will be ready to decide upon the best way for you to become pregnant. There are a few options to consider. Read more to find out what you think is best for you and discuss your options with a medical provider.

    Find a Professional Planning for Payment

    AT-HOME INSEMINATION

    Some women opt to attempt conceiving at home. If you do, make sure you get a fertility checkup first to determine if there are problems, such as blocked tubes or issues with ovulation, which would inhibit or diminish your chances at conceiving. Many women who opt in to at­-home insemination do so with the help of a midwife, which may increase the likelihood of success.

    FINDING A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL

    Working with a doctor or other type of medical professional, such as a midwife, not only increases your chances of successful conception but also provides legal protection if you are working with a known donor.

    INFERTILITY

    If you do not conceive as easily as you had hoped you would, your doctor will suggest options to consider. Your age and your reproductive and overall health will be assessed to determine what might be causing difficulty, and suggestions will be made which might solve the issue.

    Look through our Infertility Guide to see if this may be you.

    INTRAUTERINE INSEMINATION

    Intrauterine insemination (IUI), also known as artificial insemination, is a procedure done in a doctor’s office. It’s painless, and takes around five minutes to complete. IUI’s are often done in conjunction with prescribed fertility medication.

    IN VITRO FERTILIZATION

    In vitro fertilization (IVF) is a high­-tech medical procedure which is very common. If you require IVF, you will work with a reproductive endocrinologist who will monitor your progress and hold your hand every step of the way.

    EGG DONOR IVF

    Sometimes, especially with women who are a bit older, egg donor IVF will yield the best chance at pregnancy. If egg donor IVF is the right choice for you, you will work with your clinic or an agency to identify a donor.

    SURROGACY

    If you are having difficulties carrying a pregnancy, working with a surrogate may be your best bet. If so, the surrogate will carry a pregnancy resulting from either your eggs or a donor’s eggs.

    RESOURCES FOR YOU

    What Is In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) »
    Accupuncture, Stress, and In Vitro Fertilization »

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