open adoption

Birthfather Fear

The first thing you notice when looking through the literature on birthfathers is how little there actually is. When we think about the "adoption triangle," those people who play pivotal roles in an adoption, we are generally talking about the child, birthmother, and adoptive parents.

Often, our thoughts about the birthfather in an adoption that is taking shape are...

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Shame Shame Shame

Can you imagine waving good bye to your son as he gets on the school bus for his first day of school and never seeing him again? A parent's worst fear--losing a child.

Well, that is what happened to Encarnacion Bail Romero, an illegal Guatemalan immigrant, when a lower Missouri court ruled in favor of the Mosers, the adoptive family....

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The Love of Two Grandmothers

Awestruck by the birth of her first grandbaby, one grandmother was shocked when she realized her tears were not those of joy, but of sadness. Realizing her grandbaby looked nothing like her brought back all of the struggles of her own infertility. Like lightening striking, she understood for the first time what it must have been like for her daughter...

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The New Meaning of “Open Adoption”

I read an interesting article that raised some important questions at http://moms.today.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2012/02/27/10517672-frozen-embryo-open-adoption-raises-hopes-questions . The article was about a woman who had twins after IVF (in vitro fertilization) treatment. She had 4 frozen embryos left from her last IVF treatment and she decided she did not want any more children. She chose to...

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What Is Open Adoption?

Dawn Smith-Pliner Talks to Carolyn Berger

Carolyn: Can you give me a definition of "open adoption"? It seems to mean different things to different people.

Dawn: Open adoption is an adoption in which there is a relationship between the biological and adoptive family that includes the child.

Carolyn: How you create an open...

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