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“Will She Really Love Us? Will We Really Love Her? Common Worries of Adoptive Parents”

Parenting is an exciting and complex journey filled with various demands and many emotions: joy, happiness, anger, confusion and worry, to name just a few. All parents worry. Worrying is part of what parents do. Adoptive parents face multiple layers of challenges and a mosaic of worries unique to adoptive parenting. Although their worries are normal and expected reactions to...

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A Dozen Myths of Parenting After Infertility

The anticipated joy of parenthood when so long awaited, can create expectations that can be rather unrealistic, both of ourselves and our children. Following are twelve common myths of parenting after experiencing a fertility challenge:

1. Once I have a child I won't even remember our infertility.

The pain of experiencing infertility runs very deep. Although never forgotten,...

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Adoption on the Brain? That's OK

Parents are parents and they think about their children all the time. Whether you've adopted or given birth, your role is one of protector, teacher, and nurturer. In this role, you see everyday life through your eyes and the eyes of your child. You manage activities, meal plans, play dates, household affairs, family, friends, and community, and are always aware...

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Adoption: The Power of Support

It has been over twenty years since I set out to adopt a child. One thing that hasn't changed since then is the importance of creating your own adoption support network.

With the right support you will come through the adoption journey with your mental health intact and a vast array of professionals and friends you can call...

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Brad and Angelina Tie the Knot

I'm not one of those people who swoon over actors and actresses or even follow entertainment news. However, when the marriage of Brad and Angelina was announced, I had to watch to see how the media would identify their children.

Sure as shootin' - one network mentioned their adopted children as part of the ceremony. Really? How was adoption part...

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Domestic Adoption

There are two ways to adopt infants domestically in the United States, either through an adoption agency or via independent adoption, which relies upon the services of an attorney.

If you wish to work with an agency, you will sign on as a client and undergo an adoption home study, as well as prepare a profile about yourself and your...

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Every Child Is Adoptable

At age 16, after 12 years in foster care and with her 18th birthday nearing, Amanda was asked by a judge, "What do you want?" Never having been asked that question before, through all the court hearings and meetings that had occurred on her behalf, Amanda looked at the judge and said "I want what everyone wants. I want a family. I...

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Gay Man's Guide to Becoming a Dad

This informational handbook is designed to give you an overview about family building for gay men.

For gay men who wish to be dads, surrogacy and egg donation are viable routes to parenthood, as is adoption.

If you are thinking about becoming a dad and considering all your options, this is a very exciting time for you. Whether you are...

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Independent Adoption as an Option

After deciding to pursue domestic adoption as the way to build a family, adoptive parents will confront the question of whether they should try to locate their child through an adoption agency, or independently, without the assistance (and cost) of an adoption agency.

Independent (sometimes called private-placement or direct placement) adoption is an attractive choice for many reasons. Too...

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Once I Adopt, Will I Think About Adoption All The Time?

Parents are parents and they think about their children all the time. Whether you've adopted or given birth, your role is one of protector, teacher, and nurturer. In this role, you see everyday life through your eyes and the eyes of your child. You manage activities, meal plans, play dates, household affairs, family, friends, and community, and are always aware...

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Our Blended Family

I’m the parent of a child I gave birth to, and a child I adopted. They are 27 and 23, respectively.

I was a veteran of fertility treatment when I entered the world of adoption. I quickly learned there was a language of adoption. People talked of “placing” a child rather than giving up a child. A “situation” was an adoption prospect,...

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Positive Adoption Language: Why It's So Important

Words have the power to shape the way we feel about things. The words we choose when we talk about adoption affect us all, whether we are adoptive parents, birthparents, adopted children, or anyone else whose life is touched by adoption-and that includes just about everyone.

When we talk about how a flower smells, we can use the word ...

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Shifting Gears: The Adoption Option

It's your first IVF cycle and you're feeling pretty good about the chances of conceiving. Or you're heading into your fourth at bat and your confidence is getting shaky. Maybe you're looking at your sixth in vitro go-round and disappointment, anger and grief are bursting through a dam of denial.

You may be at any point on that assisted reproductive...

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So What About Dad? Creating Space for Birth Fathers in Adoption Stories

Birth fathers, even if unknown, influence the lives of adopted children. However, birth fathers are rarely considered important in adoption stories. In the absence of factual information, adoptees develop fantasies, which are imaginative stories about their birth fathers. Adopted children create these imaginative stories, filled with internal images, thoughts and feelings, so they can wonder about the birth father-- his...

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Ten Myths about Adoption

Adoption is an emotionally charged topic. Throw in some misinformation and a whopping dose of the stuff tabloids are made of and it's hard to separate myth from fact. So sit back, get comfortable, and learn the truth about building a family through adoption.

1. MYTH: There are no kids to adopt.

FACT: There are children of all...

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The Complexity of Rehoming

A recent story on WABC TV’s news show, 20/20, brought the concept of “adoption rehoming” into the public eye. It has created quite a firestorm. The definition of “adoption rehoming” is a family, who has adopted a child and chooses to place him or her into another home. This often occurs when an adopted child displays severe behavioral problems.

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The Love of Two Grandmothers

Awestruck by the birth of her first grandbaby, one grandmother was shocked when she realized her tears were not those of joy, but of sadness. Realizing her grandbaby looked nothing like her brought back all of the struggles of her own infertility. Like lightening striking, she understood for the first time what it must have been like for her daughter...

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The Role of the Pediatrician in the Adoption Process: Before, During and After an Adoption

Starting about 10 years ago, in response to the markedly increased numbers of children being adopted from abroad, a minor sub-specialty emerged in the field of pediatrics, pediatricians interested in adoptions, or "adoption pediatricians." In 2000, The American Academy of Pediatrics recognized this new group, The Section on Adoption and Foster Care. This section of the Academy is "…dedicated to improving the h...

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